After months of worrying that the adoption and birth would somehow happen the same day, Desmond was 9 days late. Corinne’s water leaked late at night, and she went to the hospital early the next morning. After spending 6 hours in the hospital with no progression, Corinne’s doctor fully broke the water bag. Corinne was hopeful there would be no additional intervention, and thanks to coaching from her Mom, and constant massaging by both her Mom and husband, she was able to persevere. After 8 hours of back labor, Desmond was born at 11pm. Ben ordered pizza and a turkey sandwich, Corinne’s favorite foods, and everyone lived happily ever after.
Corinne Horowitz Bio
Corinne and her husband Ben live in Minnesota with their two sons Andrew (17) and Desmond (7 months) and two dogs, CharlieBear and Gingerbread. They are licensed foster parents and adopted Andrew three weeks before Desmond’s arrival by birth. They plan to grow their family through a combination of foster care, adoption and biological children. Connect with her on Instagram or Facebook.
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Homebirth to Hospital Cesarean Birth Story
Natalie’s first pregnancy (conceived with clomid) ended in a miscarriage. For her second pregnancy, she started right away with progesterone and blood thinning shots (she has factor v leiden). She knew for years that she wanted a home birth. She also knew the risks of home birth with her blood clotting disorder—she knew she may transfer at some point for hemorrhaging, but hoped against a placenta abruption. Her hematologist said that taking thinning injections helped cancel out that risk. She prepared for a home birth and anticipated it with so much joy. She wanted a home birth so badly. She couldn’t wait to experience that ‘meeting moment’ she had assisted so many times as a birth photographer.
Natalie’s birth began on a Tuesday morning, May 31. She labored and labored and labored. On Wednesday morning, her contractions became irregular. Wednesday night around 11 pm she transferred to the hospital, hoping to get her body back in order. Epidural didn’t work. Pitocin didn’t work. Her body metabolized the medicine. Thursday she pushed for over 4 hours. She was sure she was going to push him out. He was asynclitic (when a baby’s head is tipped towards one shoulder) and had swelling of the scalp (caput succedaneum). Her birth ended in a cesarean. She kept imagining meeting him, how it would be worth it. Her body metabolized the medicine, once again, so they had to put her under general anesthetics. She was asleep. Then when she woke up and was in a whole world of pain.
Natalie Brenner Bio
Natalie is a freelance writer, soon to be author, and professional photographer who is up for just about any crazy adventure. Natalie’s husband’s name is Loren, but she refers to him as LB. She chugs coffee while changing diapers and singing songs in silly voices to her two sweet boys who are almost 5 months apart and both 1. Before they grew by two kids, Natalie was also a doula; she is passionate about pregnancy and birth, infertility and miscarriage, as well as adoption. All around, she loves people. Connect further with her through Natalie Brenner Writes, Instagram, and Facebook. She also has a free e-book for working through grief called Wholeness Despite the Brokenness and just released her first book, This Undeserved Life: Uncovering the gifts of grief and the fullness of life.
More writing on her birth experience:
YOUR HARD AND MY HARD ARE BOTH ABSOLUTELY HARD
TO MY SECONDBORN: OUR MEETING WASN’T MAGICAL
Wild Feminine: Finding Power, Spirit & Joy in the Female Body
Homebirth Cesarean: Stories and Support for Families and Healthcare Providers
Homebirth Cesarean Facebook group – specifically for homebirths turned cesarean
Birth Trauma Association Facebook
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Being a Foster Mom and Having a Baby at the Same Time
In 2015, Lori Kitchen-Buschel and her husband, Kenneth, became licensed foster parents: in less than a year, they went from 0 kids to being the parents of 3 children under 5 with the addition of their daughter Louella Kitchen-Buschel in 2016. In this extremely moving episode, she talks about her journey from meeting her foster children, to finding out she was pregnant unexpectedly and struggling with wondering whether she would have enough love for all of her children.
Lori Kitchen-Buschel Bio
Born and raised in Metro Detroit, Lori’s career and family is a testament to her passions: social justice through philanthropy; women’s leadership; human safety and security; and, nonprofit management. She earned her BA from American University in politics and woman-focused public policy, and worked for the U.S. Agency on International Development (USAID). It was while working there that she discovered the fascinating world of grant making. After 7 years in Washington, Lori returned to Michigan to work with United Way for Southeastern Michigan (UWSEM), the Michigan Women’s Foundation (MWF), and Nonprofit Enterprise at Work (NEW). In these roles, she led education and advocacy campaigns on basic needs, 2-1-1, food access, and human trafficking. While at MWF, Lori partnered with Girl Scouts for Southeastern Michigan to bring her concept of a civic and philanthropic leadership program for girls to life through a program that eventually became Camp Moxie!
While at NEW, she coached and trained nonprofits on practical and tangible fundraising goals, demystified the fundraising process, and taught them to be strategic in their fundraising priorities and tactics. She simultaneously championed the wider community to be more inclusive of marginalized groups and areas by teaching donors and fundraisers that donations send a message about community priorities. Now at Wayne County SAFE, Lori is able to marry her passions together to build relationships and philanthropic partnerships to support survivors of sexual assault and human trafficking. In addition to her family, Lori’s passions include children in foster care, hugging basset hounds, and creating essential oil blends. You can connect with Lori on instagram @DetroitLuvYo
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Today’s guest is Jamie Ivey who is sharing her birth story and three adoption stories. Her son Cayden was born in a hospital and while it was a good experience overall, Jamie says if she were to get pregnant again today, she would’ve done some things differently. Jamie felt strongly that she and her husband should adopt a baby not too long after Cayden was born and went down the path of domestic adoption to welcome their second son, Deacon. They adopted Deacon as a newborn and were present at the hospital for his birth. Jamie talks about how she planned to practice adoptive breastfeeding with Deacon and although he did latch on right away, it ultimately wasn’t feasible long term with what was going on with their family at the time.
A few years later they felt called to adopt again and this time internationally from Haiti. The adoption process was much longer than they had initially anticipated and while they were matched with two children fairly quickly the finalization of the adoptions was a complicated and a long process. Jamie and her husband, Aaron, took turns visiting their kids in Haiti but it got harder and harder on both them and their children each time they had to say goodbye. Their daughter, Story, ended up coming home before their son, Amos even though they had been living together with the same family in Haiti.
Things changed suddenly when the 2010 earthquake hit Haiti and after being relieved of the initial concern of whether Amos was safe, they quickly found out that his adoption was going to be allowed to be finalized here in the States and that after 2.5 years of waiting, he’d be coming home to them immediately and their family would finally all be together. Watch this beautiful video to see them travel to Florida to bring him home and listen to Jamie’s episode of The Birth Hour to hear her tell the entire story.
Jamie Ivey is a podcaster, writer, and speaker from Austin, Texas. She is the proud mama of four kids and the wife of Aaron, worship pastor of The Austin Stone Community Church. Jamie loves to encourage women to passionately follow Jesus through whatever stage of life. She does this through writing and her weekly podcast, The Happy Hour with Jamie Ivey. You can connect with her on Instagram, Twitter or Facebook.
Check out Jamie’s adoption section of her website for her journey and resources she recommends.
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